Wait you're supposed to spend child support on the child?

Lately it seems as though there has been much coverage of celebrity men and their child support agreements or lack thereof. After reading the story about T.I’s son’s mother (not Tiny) I went home and debated the issue with my mother. In the end, I concluded that because I am a single parent, I am motivated and downright disgusted that a lot of women view having children by wealthy and affluent men as their way to the good life. I can not disagree more. While I adamantly believe a man ought to provide for his children to the best of his abilities, I do not think a woman should feel she hit the lotto. She didn’t. Her child did.

My father posed the following situation:
A woman living in the projects has a child by a married man who lives in the Hamptons. All of his children go to private schools and attend the most exclusive summer camps. What should she expect for herself and her child? My answer was simple, that he treat her child as he treats his other children, that this child should be able to go to an elite private school and the opportunity to go the same type of summer camps because after all, the children should not be held accountable for the mistakes of their parents. He followed up with the living arrangement. Should he be obligated to buy her a house. My answer: It would be a nice gesture but he isn’t obligated to relocate her. Any parent would want their children to be reared in the best environment and he should want that for this child as well. If I were in such a predicament (as a guy) I would most likely buy a house for my child and his mother, but the house would be in my child’s name and she would not be able to make any financial decisions regarding that house without my or the child’s appointed executor.

I was prompted to discuss this issue after reading the details of the divorce between Tyrese Gibson and his estranged wife. It seems quite ridiculous to me that child support ought to consider such requests as “350 dollar outfits” for a 18 month old child and that she not wear each outfit more than once. I also find it absolutely ridiculous that she is contesting the prenuptial agreement because she feels as though she was under duress. She states that had she not signed the agreement, she would not have been married to Tyrese. She also goes on to state that if she weren’t married she would not have gained citizenship (which based on the brevity of their marriage she still is not entitled to or eligible) and because both her daughter and Tyrese are American Citizens she would not have been able to return home abroad without Tyrese legally stopping her as his main concern was visitation (which she contends he barely does anyway.) She wishes to set aside the prenup in order to get more money since she is an unemployed single mother with no skills. Hmmmm

What I don’t understand about these women is they are very quick to point out to the court how they are used to the luxurious life, that they were giving unlimited spending power and once their well dries up they’re quick to point out how ignorant and unemployable they are and how they must collect money from their former spouse. She stated that she was required to stay home and be the perfect wife and mother. She and Tyrese dated for 7 years, they have been married for 10 months and their daughter is 18 months old. She only needed to be the doting mom and wife for a period of 2 years, # if you count the pregnancy. She was a college student when she met him and abandoned her studies for the glamorous life. Why? So many of these woman are quick to ask for more money that they believe they are entitled to and yet no one had ever asked for their spouse to pay for their educational expenses so that they may better themselves. Norma Gibson is 23 years old. She will only be receiving a one time settlement of 65,000 and child support for their child until she is 40 years old. Then what?
LaShon Dixon (mother of T.I’s first boys) makes aaround 19,000 per year. Their youngest son is 7. What the hell has she been doing for the past 7 years that at the present she is only earning less than 20,000. She asked that he provide more child support so they can have more opulence because it is unfair they can have whatever they want at his house but are limited at her house. Is she asking for him to help her through school so that she can find a better paying job? Nope, of course not, she wants money the easy way, you worked hard for it now hand it over because at some point in the past you ejaculated in my uterus and produced two children and now I ought to be paid.

*****explicative (that starts with a B) Please.