Reposted : After The Storm

Peace Of Mind - Lauryn Hill

We’ve all been there, well most of us anyway. You live and you love but somehow you outgrow each other and the love is over. The BREAK UP begins. Maybe it was mutual but if it wasn’t it leaves one of you wondering why. You’re obsessing over why it’s over. You’re not eating, you’re not sleeping and you’re crying non stop. I'm not here to judge or chastise you. You didn’t fall in love over night and I don’t expect you to stop loving that person immediately after they have slaughtered your heart and left it on the ground for the vultures but you must know life moves on, you will move on.

Relationships don’t end on a whim. Some may feel as though it came out of no where but it never really does. We tend to mask all the negativity and disguise it as anything but the truth when in actuality the person you love only looks that way because you love them. You get to a point when you begin accepting behaviors that you would normally shun because you want things to work. You begin to lose who you are because you feel like you are looking at the bigger picture and when this all crumbles at your feet you can’t help but to feel used and betrayed not to mention stupid.


In our minds, we grapple with the idea of being replaced. It is universal. No one wants to feel as though they were just filler, that your former spouse has not only accepted and interviewed applicants but has chosen the best person for that position. Now there is a toothbrush in your once empty slot and the toiletries on the sink don’t match your hue. We are still hung up on that person and it is as if we need their permission to move forward with our lives. We want to know that the puddles of tears collecting at the corner of our mouths are falling down the other person’s cheek. We want to know that while we are sleepless, thinking about the shoulda woulda couldas, they too are partaking in that same painful ritual. Maybe they are but why should we care? We are caught up with the do you miss me as much as I miss you’s and the how come we just can’t be’s that we don’t realize that we are FIERCE. No one wants to be given the pink slip, but it happens. We immediately begin to think about how we can’t go on and how unfair it is that we are in this situation but we don’t tend to look at the silver lining. It’s ME time.

It’s going to hurt and you’re going to cry so go ahead and let it out. Cleanse yourself of all the pent up rage and when the storm has passed the result is a new day. A new person to begin a new chapter in life. You’re grown wiser. You’ve met the person in the mirror and you are happy with that reflection. You aren’t seeking to be validated externally. You are you. This may sound corny but you know that you’ve got it going on, that you’re all that and a bag of chips. So why mope, why cry any longer than you must. Your mourning period is over and you realize that you haven’t lost. That person missed out on something great and they can search until the end of time and never find the likes of you anywhere, so let them try. You are magnificently you.

You’ve Lived, You loved and finally you learned. What more can you ask for?